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Dear Friend, Live Your Most Outrageously Beautiful Life

Dear friend, Let me ask you a hard question: are you living your most outrageously beautiful life or are you getting in your own way? I know you don’t mean to be... But maybe it feels easier to limit yourself instead of making mistakes. Maybe it feels easier to look away instead of face a life of adventure. Maybe it feels easier to numb yourself to both the good AND the bad because feeling both seems like too much. I have lived in the numb place, in the looking away place, and the “in my own way” place. Those places kept me hidden and small and quiet. They even quieted my dreams and desires until I couldn’t hear the call...

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The Comfort of Grief

Grief, it seems, has been lingering in the shadows. His presence has been slight in recent days; he’s been dancing along the edges of the new life I’ve built - the one without Lisa.

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Three unexpected lessons from living through a pandemic.

The other night as we were cleaning the kitchen (this becomes important later) I told my husband I had realized a lot about myself during this pandemic. It was likely the best thing that has come out of this increasingly difficult situation. Living through a pandemic has brought realizations I was not expecting at all. Not that I really went into this with any expectations. I just didn’t realize how much I’d learn just staying home for months on end.  Here are the three biggest things I’ve learned from isolation and this pandemic. 1. Little things matter. Being only at home for 2 months has changed how I live in my house. In the past, I would put off chores...

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Dear Friend Series: I love you and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it!

  Dear friend, I love you and there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. I first heard that line in a Scrubs episode a few years ago when a fictional pastor said it at the end of his sermon for a funeral. I remember a warm feeling fill me even though it was an actor on a TV show saying it. I began to think about how powerful this statement is...unconditional love. And I thought "If an actor on TV saying this affected me so much, how would my community feel hearing it from me?" And that is when I started ending each of my blog posts and emails with it. Because if there is something I aspire...

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Why you should embrace the scars that healed you.

“How do you feel about scars?” The nurse asks. “I’m ok with scars.” I reply but wonder if it’s true. I’m sitting in an exam room at a medical clinic getting stitches out of my right index finger. Two weeks earlier I’d sliced my finger open badly and had to venture out into this ongoing pandemic to be stitched up. The nurse continues saying that there’s an effective but pricey scar remedy I can purchase at any local pharmacy. I thank her for the information but don’t stop at the pharmacy on my way home. Once home I strip off the clothes I’d worn to the medical office and immediately take a shower to reduce the possibility that I’d brought...

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